Let’s face a fact of the world: people have a lot to say, and people’s words can cause us emotional pain.
As we may not want to feel this pain, we may take certain actions (or inactions) to protect ourselves.
Approach 1: Fight or Flight.
Examples of this:
-Share only less personal/sensitive things
-Choose carefully who you connect with/let into your life
-Listen more carelessly to the people we talk with, or talk more just about oneself
-We can constantly try and prove we are _____ to ourselves or others (fight)
Approach 2: Transform- We can create a mind-machine that transforms no matter anyone says into life
This machine I called NVC (non-violent communication by the master Marshal Rosenberg).