Let's face a fact of the world: people have a lot to say, and people’s words can cause us emotional pain.
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As we may not want to feel this pain, we may take certain actions (or inactions) to protect ourselves.
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Approach 1: Fight or Flight.
FIGHT
Examples of this:
-Share only less personal/sensitive things
-Choose carefully who you connect with/let into your life
-Listen more carelessly to the people we talk with, or talk more just about oneself
FLIGHT
-We can constantly try and prove we are _____ to ourselves or others (fight)
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Approach 2: Transform- We can create a mind-machine that transforms no matter anyone says into life
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This machine I called NVC (non-violent communication by the master Marshal Rosenberg).